What Is the Hardest Part of Fostering?

Fostering can be one of the most rewarding things you ever do, but let’s be honest, it’s not always easy. When people ask, “What’s the hardest part of fostering?”, there’s no single answer. Every carer, child, and situation is different. But there are a few common challenges that many foster carers experience, especially in those early days. 

Letting go of expectations 

It’s natural to imagine what fostering will be like, how the child will settle in, how you’ll bond, and what your day-to-day life might look like. But children in care often come from very complex backgrounds. They may not trust adults, and they may not respond to kindness in the way you’d expect. Building trust can take time, and it can be frustrating or even heartbreaking when you feel like you’re not getting through. 

The hardest part? Sticking with it when things aren’t going the way you hoped. But also the most powerful part, because when that trust does come, it means everything. 

Saying goodbye 

Even in short-term fostering, deep bonds can form. You might look after a child for just a few weeks, or for months, even years. And when the time comes for them to return home or move on, it can feel like a piece of your heart is going with them. 

It’s part of the job, but it never gets easy. What helps is knowing that you’ve played a part in that young person’s journey, giving them safety, stability, and love when they needed it most. 

Managing behaviour shaped by trauma 

Some children come into foster care after experiencing trauma, neglect, or abuse. That trauma doesn’t vanish when they walk through your front door. It often shows up in how they behave, from anxiety and withdrawal to anger or outbursts. 

It’s not personal. It’s pain. And understanding that can help you respond with empathy rather than frustration. But it’s still emotionally demanding. That’s why ongoing training, wraparound support, and having someone on the end of the phone 24/7, like Progress offers, really matters. 

Navigating the unknown 

Foster carers often have to adapt quickly. Emergency placements can come with very little notice or information. Plans can change overnight. Meetings, school issues, court updates, there’s a lot going on behind the scenes. 

Having a strong support network, both professionally and personally, can make all the difference. At Progress, our carers never go it alone. There’s always someone to guide, support, and step in when things get tough. 

Final thoughts 

The hardest part of fostering isn’t the behaviour or the meetings or even the goodbyes. It’s the emotional resilience it asks of you. But it’s also what makes fostering so powerful. 

You open your heart and your home to a child in need. You give them a fresh start. And while it might be challenging at times, it’s also life-changing, for them and for you. 

If you’re thinking about fostering and want an honest conversation about what it’s really like, our team at Progress is here to talk. No pressure, no judgement, just real answers from people who understand. 

Call us today on 01902 561066 or visit progresscare.co.uk/fostering to start your fostering journey. 

What Do You Mean by Fostering? 

When people talk about fostering, they usually mean something very simple but powerful. It is about opening your home to care for a child or young person who, for one reason or another, cannot live with their own family. 

But fostering is much more than just offering a bed and meals. It is about giving stability, patience, and kindness at a time when a young person really needs it. 

So, what exactly is fostering? 

Fostering is a way of providing care for children and young people who cannot live with their birth families. This might be because of neglect, illness, family breakdown or other difficult circumstances. Sometimes the placement is short-term while things get sorted out. Other times, it can continue for months or even years. 

Foster carers don’t just offer a place to stay. They provide emotional support, routine, encouragement, and a sense of safety. In many ways, a foster family is just like any other. It is where a child can feel seen, heard, and cared for. 

Is fostering the same as adoption? 

No, they are different. With adoption, the adoptive parents take on full legal responsibility for the child for life. In fostering, the local authority remains legally responsible, and the aim is often to return the child to their birth family if that becomes possible. 

This means some foster placements may last just a few days, while others continue until the child turns 18 and is ready for independence. 

Are there different types of fostering? 

Yes. The kind of fostering depends on the needs of each individual child. Some of the main types include: 

  • Short-term fostering – temporary care while a longer-term plan is being made. 
  • Long-term fostering – ongoing care for a child who cannot return to their birth family. 
  • Emergency fostering – immediate care when a child needs a safe place at short notice. 
  • Ongoing short breaks – planned, regular breaks (such as one weekend a month or a Saturday every other week) often for children with additional needs, giving their families vital breathing space to continue providing care. 
  • Respite care – short-term cover when a foster carer or family is temporarily unavailable, such as during holidays or hospital stays. Unlike ongoing short breaks, respite is usually one-off or occasional. 
  • Specialist fostering – for children with additional needs such as disabilities, mental health challenges, or complex behaviours. This also includes Parent and Child fostering, where carers support a young parent and their baby together in the same placement. 

At Progress, we support carers to find the type of fostering that suits their life, home, and experience. You are never alone on the journey. 

Who can foster? 

Foster carers come from all walks of life. You do not need to be married, own your home, or have children of your own. What matters most is that you have a spare bedroom and a genuine desire to make a difference in a child’s life. 

Whether you are working, retired, single, or in a couple, fostering could be an option. And even if you do not have experience with children, we can offer training and support to help you build your confidence and skills. 

Why fostering matters 

For the children and young people who need it, fostering can be life-changing. It offers safety, hope, and a fresh start. For foster carers, it is a chance to be part of something meaningful and to play a role in a child’s journey forward. 

If you have ever thought about fostering, even just once, we would love to speak with you. No pressure and no commitment — just a friendly conversation with someone who understands what fostering really means. 

 

Can I foster and work full-time?

Can I foster and work full-time? 

One of the most common concerns people have when thinking about fostering is how it fits around work. Many people ask, “Can I foster and still keep my full-time job?” The answer is yes, it is possible, but it depends on a few key factors.  

It depends on the type of fostering 

Firstly, inquire whether to consider whether your employer is a ‘Fostering Friendly’ organisation. Progress is a Fostering Friendly organisation. 

Fostering is not one-size-fits-all. Some placements require more time and flexibility than others. For example: 

  • Short breaks or respite care can be more flexible and may fit around a working pattern, especially if the care is offered at weekends or during school holidays. 
  • Short-term or long-term fostering often involves school runs, meetings with professionals, and being available when children are unwell or have appointments. This can be difficult to manage alongside a full-time job without flexibility or support. 
  • Specialist fostering, such as caring for a child with additional needs, usually requires at least one carer to be available full-time.
     

If you work full-time but are considering fostering, it is important to think about whether you can adjust your working hours, work remotely, or share responsibilities with a partner. 

What if I work part-time or shifts? 

Many people who foster work part-time or have jobs with flexible hours. Some foster carers work evenings or weekends, or have self-employed roles that allow them to set their own schedule. Others share caring responsibilities with a partner, so between them they can meet the child’s needs. 

If you work shifts, we would need to look at your availability and whether you would be able to attend key meetings, respond to emergencies, and offer the level of care the child needs. 

At Progress, we talk this through with every applicant and help you explore the types of fostering that would suit your lifestyle. 

What support is available? 

Fostering is a big commitment, especially if you are juggling other responsibilities. That is why Progress offers a strong package of support, including: 

  • A dedicated social worker to support and supervise your practice 
  • Training that fits around your availability 
  • 24/7 out-of-hours support 
  • Up to 21 nights of respite care per year 
  • We provide access to cashbacks and benefits through the Westfields Health and Rewards  
  • Access to Progress services to support your placement 

You are never alone, and we will work with you to make sure fostering fits into your life in a way that is manageable and rewarding. 

What if I want to reduce my hours later? 

Some people start fostering while working full-time and gradually reduce their hours as they settle into their new role. Others use the income from fostering, along with support from Progress, to make a long-term career change. 

Remember, foster carers are self-employed, and payments vary depending on the type of placement and the needs of the child. Specialist care usually comes with a higher level of support and financial reward. 

Final thoughts 

You can foster and work full-time, but it is important to be realistic about your time and energy. The needs of the child come first, and every placement is different. If you are thinking about fostering, the best place to start is with an open conversation. 

At Progress, we will help you look at your current work and life situation and advise you on the best path forward. You do not have to have all the answers — that is what we are here for. Call us today on 01902 561066 or visit progresscare.co.uk/fostering to start your fostering journey. 

Progress Fostering Service Maintains Outstanding Ofsted Rating

Progress has earned top marks from Ofsted, proving once again that outstanding care changes lives.

Progress Fostering Service has officially maintained its Outstanding rating by Ofsted following its latest inspection, a recognition that reinforces the agency’s longstanding commitment to delivering exceptional care and support to children and young people. The inspection, conducted from 24 to 28 February 2025, evaluated the fostering agency under the Social Care Common Inspection Framework and praised the organisation for its unwavering focus on positive outcomes, professional excellence, and inclusive care.

In the report, Ofsted inspectors highlighted the outstanding quality of care provided to children and young people placed with Progress foster families. The agency was specifically commended for its ability to deliver highly effective services that consistently exceed expectations, ensuring children not only feel safe but also thrive emotionally, socially, and educationally. Ofsted noted that the children in Progress placements are flourishing, with many experiencing significant progress from their individual starting points. The report detailed how children benefit from tailored, flexible care packages and therapeutic support that address their unique needs.

One of the key features highlighted in the report was Progress’ enhanced care model, which includes direct access to the agency’s therapeutic team and the involvement of family support workers. These professionals play an integral role in supporting both children and carers through one-on-one sessions, youth groups, consultation forums, and holiday schemes. According to the report, this wraparound support not only enriches the children’s lives but also empowers foster carers, creating a strong foundation for stability and growth.

Fostering manager, Michelle, speaking at the recently annual awards and lunch event for Progress’ foster carers

Inspectors were particularly moved by the personal stories shared by children, including one young person who spoke about moving from residential care into a loving foster home where they had the opportunity to choose and care for their first pet. Such moments, the report noted, are symbolic of the confidence, independence, and emotional healing that children experience under Progress’s care.

The leadership of Progress Children’s Services also received glowing praise. The report noted that the agency’s new registered manager, Michelle, appointed in September 2024, had been supported by a strategic succession plan and mentored by the responsible individual. Ofsted commended the leadership team for maintaininga clear vision and ethos, supported by robust internal monitoring and a culture of continuous improvement. Staff at all levels spoke positively about their experience, pointing to comprehensive inductions, training, regular appraisals, and strong support systems that enable them to thrive professionally and deliver the best outcomes for children.

The inspection also confirmed that the leadership team managed transitions with care and collaboration. Foster carers were invited to attend dedicated conferences and provide feedback, and the leadership team responded proactively to concerns raised, ensuring continuity of support and services.

Inspectors also noted Progress’ inclusive recruitment practices and the warm, responsive approach toward prospective foster carers. Social workers were praised for building strong relationships with applicants and their families, including offering dedicated support to birth children within fostering households. Foster carers described feeling well-prepared and supported throughout the assessment and approval process.

The overall outcome of the inspection was overwhelmingly positive.

Tina, Head of Children’s Services at Progress, and one of Progress’ fostering couples

Speaking after the publication of the report, Michelle Earp, Registered Manager at Progress Fostering Service, expressed pride in the outcome. “This inspection result is a reflection of the incredible team effort at Progress, from our dedicated foster carers and skilled staff to the children whose resilience and growth continue to inspire us every day. We are committed to listening, learning, and doing everything we can to provide exceptional care.”

Tina Bhardwaj, Head of Children’s Service at Progress, added: “We are proud to be recognised once again as an outstanding fostering agency. The feedback from Ofsted validates the deep-rooted values and standards that guide everything we do. While we celebrate this success, we remain focused on the future and on delivering even more meaningful impact for children and families.”

Progress remains one of the leading fostering agencies in the region, known for its innovative approaches, compassionate care, and inclusive ethos. The agency continues to welcome applications from individuals and families interested in making a difference in a child’s life.

Progress celebrates Learning Disability week 2025

“Do you see me?” is the theme for the 2025 National Learning Disability Week. It is about making sure that people with a learning disability are seen, heard, included, and valued in all aspects of life. The goal is to celebrate what people with a learning disability bring to the society.

Annually, the third week of June is Learning Disability Week.  It is when we make sure the world hears what life is like if you have a learning disability.

People with a learning disability want what everyone wants, to be heard, seen and included.  No more prejudice. No more being left out. Just equal opportunities and the right to live a full, brilliant life. The goal is to celebrate what people with a learning disability bring to society.

But, for now, here are the important numbers:

“Do you see me?” is a powerful reminder that people with a learning disability deserve to be seen, heard, included, and valued in every part of life — not just during this week, but always.

At Progress, this theme is at the heart of everything we do. We don’t just see the young people we support, we celebrate them. We champion their voices, we advocate for their rights, and we work every day to ensure they are included, empowered, and given the tools they need to live full, brilliant lives.

While the annual National Learning Disability Week is an opportunity to raise awareness of what life is like for people with a learning disability. At Progress, we live this mission every day. Through our tailored support services, specialists, dedicated carers, and strong values of trust, respect, and progress, we aim to break down barriers and challenge prejudice.

People with a learning disability want what everyone wants: to be heard, to be seen, and to be included. And at Progress, we are committed to making that a reality.

We have exciting careers in supporting young people with learning disabilities. Visit progresscare.co.uk/jobs

Are you passionate about caring for young people with learning disabilities? Inquire about our outstanding fostering service. Visit progresscare.co.uk/fostering

Father’s Day 2025: Join us at Progress Walk and Talk

Walk. Talk. Connect.

This Father’s Day – Sunday 16th June at 11:30am, we’re inviting you to join us for the very first Progress Walk and Talk at the beautiful Elvaston Castle and Country Park!

Whether you’re a foster carer, friend, family member, or just curious about fostering — this is your chance to unwind, connect, and enjoy a gentle walk with the Progress community.

Meeting point: Main park car park (Sat Nav: DE72 3EP)
Four-legged friends welcome!
Bring a picnic or enjoy a bite at the on-site café afterwards.

Let’s take a step together toward building an even stronger, more supportive fostering family.

Click here to register.

Progress Fostering Service Celebrates Pride Month with Love, Colour, and a Special Banner!

Proud, Loud, and Ready for Pride! ️‍

Happy Pride Month!

We’re kicking off this month of love, inclusion, and acceptance with something truly special. The amazing young people at Progress Fostering Service came together to create a vibrant, heartfelt banner, and we will be proudly carrying it at Wolverhampton Pride this Saturday, 7th June!

The creativity and care poured into this banner show just how much our young people understand and support the values of Pride. Their voices matter, and through this banner, they’re sending a powerful message: everyone deserves to be seen, accepted, and celebrated for who they are.

We’re excited to be participating in the Wolverhampton Pride Parade alongside the community and allies from all walks of life. If you’re attending, keep an eye out for our team and our beautiful handmade banner—it’s hard to miss and even harder not to smile at!

At Progress, we believe in creating a world where every person feels safe, valued, and free to express themselves. Pride Month is a reminder of how far we’ve come, and how much more we can do together.

Join us in celebrating this special month, and let us know if you will be at Wolverhampton Pride!

At Progress, I class everyone as family

As Toni celebrates her 18th birthday, she reflects on her journey through foster care. This is a heartfelt story of resilience, trust and the life-changing support she found at Progress:

Gemma (a team member at Progress Fostering Service) has been very helpful and helped me so much since I’ve been in foster care. She has been the one for me to look up to and know that I have got the support and someone who I can talk to about my emotions and understand how I work. Plus, even though I have moved around so much Gemma has never left me and made sure I was happy and if I needed to cry to someone, I have that trust to be open with her.

Foster care is hard for young children because they have come from a bad environment but when we come and find a nice place like at Progress where I class everyone as family and the fact that all of the staff have known me for so long such as, Gemma and Michelle and have supported me since I first came into care. Now I’m coming up to 18 in three days. I’m very upset about leaving but it is so exciting to go into supported living. I would like to say thank you to Gemma and the whole of Progress for getting me through everything when I was having a bad time at my previous foster carers.

Curve Balls and Calm Voices: Progress Charts a New Path for Complex Placements

On a recent weekday morning, Carla, the therapeutic development officer at the Ofsted-outstanding Progress Fostering Service, posed the question that frames every support session she runs: Who is this child beyond the label?

“Every child is completely individual, regardless of their background and needs,” she regularly tells foster carers when they gather during one of her several sessions with them, at Progress House, elsewhere or online.

That premise, that diagnoses illuminate but do not define, has guided Progress as it navigates a surge of children with special educational needs and disabilities (SEND). The number of such referrals has doubled since the pandemic, stretching Britain’s 56,000‑strong fostering network.

To meet the demand, Progress leverages the Solihull Approach, a 12‑week programme that Carla leads several times a year. When carers first hear the length, she said, “they usually think, Twelve weeks? That’s a long time.” But by the final session, the mood shifts. “It’s a celebration of how far they’ve come,” she added, noting the friendships that form around the homework tasks of quiet observation and written reflection.

The core lesson is disarmingly simple: notice your own state before responding to a child. “Breathe, just take a moment first,” Carla tells carers confronting meltdowns in soft‑play centres or frantic school‑run departures. “If you’re hyped up, the child is going to mirror that.”

Foster carers say the advice helps. “It’s like first aid for the brain,” one participant volunteered after the session, comparing the pause to the stop‑and‑assess mantra taught on emergency‑response courses.

Progress is also piloting the Berry assessment, a structured questionnaire that tracks how a child behaves at school versus at home. “It really breaks down and looks at the areas of need,” Carla said. When the answers diverge sharply, she convenes a team‑around‑the‑child meeting to recalibrate support plans.

The method has already revealed masked anxiety in two children and led to tweaks in classroom seating and playground routines. “You can’t fix everything,” Carla cautioned, “but you can reduce the curve balls.”

Teaching the art of rupture and repair

The course spends a full session on what clinicians call rupture and repair—the cycle of conflict and reconciliation common in any family, but especially acute when past trauma shadows the dinner table. Foster carers, Carla said, possess something professional training cannot supply. “They’ve got the biggest hearts, and that’s something you can’t teach.”

She tries, instead, to give them language. One exercise asks carers to juggle an unexpected demand, mimicking the sensory overload a child might feel. “That’s how your child feels,” she tells them afterward.

Progress, which marks its 25th anniversary next month, now supports numerous fostering households. It hosts children’s clubs, support groups and impromptu phone triage, “Can I just have two minutes?” is a common request, to keep placements afloat between formal appointments.

The agency’s culture, Carla said, is summed up in the phrase she repeats to nervous newcomers: “We’re a family, and you’re part of it now.” Her message for the anniversary echoes that refrain. “Keep doing what you’re doing. Everyone is amazing, especially the children,” she said.

Britain must recruit an estimated 8,000 additional foster carers to meet current demand, the Fostering Network says. Many of the hardest‑to‑place children carry complex diagnoses. Progress’ blend of clinical insight and kitchen‑table pragmatism offers one model for how agencies can prepare carers for that reality — and, in the process, remind them to breathe.

Study Time and Second Chances: Inside the Gills’ Quarter-Century of Fostering

At a corner in the Progress Head Office that provides a typical living room setup, Ms. Gill rehearses the ritual that has shaped her days for a quarter‑century with her supportive husband beside her. “Soon as they come in from school, everyone sits,” she says, tapping the surface. “One and a half hours of study time. Every single day.”

The routine explains much about why former foster children still telephone the Gills years later, sometimes from university dormitories. One young man, now studying engineering at the University of Birmingham, recently rang to say her insistence on homework had paid off. “You were right, Musti,” he told her, using the Punjabi word for aunt. 

The Gills are no ordinary foster carers. They joined Progress Fostering Service in June 2000 after being made aware of the rising shortage of culturally sensitive placements in the West Midlands. Six months later she and her husband enrolled on Progress’ very first training course. “When we started, we didn’t know what fostering is,” she recalled. “But we never looked back.”

Ms Gill and Claire Rogers, Progress MD, had a chat on the sidelines of Progress awards event for foster carers

Since then the couple — known to staff and children simply as “the Gills” have provided homes to more than a dozen young people, some for a night, others for the better part of childhood. They easily described three long‑term stays that alone add up to 30 years of care: a 10‑year placement for a girl who used a wheelchair, and 12 years for two siblings.

Their first assignment, in 2001, all but defined the road ahead: a six‑year‑old boy with profound autism who could neither speak nor sleep. “We had to nail the windows shut,” Mr. Gill said, still incredulous. The ordeal, Ms. Gill added, “built our foundation really solid so we could look after any child.”

Progress now has numerous staff members and works with several fostering families across and beyond the Midlands. But the Gills’ front room remains one of its unofficial situation rooms, a place where social workers drop in unannounced and plates of vegetarian samosas materialise for anyone who looks hungry. “Everybody’s so friendly,” Mr. Gill said. “That’s why we never gave up.”

Mr. Gill laser-focused on fostering discussions

The commitment has not been cheap. Early on, the couple remortgaged their house to fund vehicle adaptations and ceiling hoists. Nights out disappeared; holidays became logistically fraught. Yet Ms. Gill insists no child in her home should expect less than her own two sons, both graduates of University of Oxford. “If we can do it for our children,” she said, “they’re not different.”

The belief in education runs deep. When a teenager arrived two years ago, flunking classes and nursing a drinking habit, Ms. Gill bought her a corkboard and desk. Within months the girl collected top grades and a place at Leicester University. Another former charge, now 26, sends Christmas cards addressed to “Mum and Dad.”

Such outcomes underscore the theme of Foster Care Fortnight 2025, which began this week and seeks to recruit additional carers nationwide. Britain’s fostering network has contracted by 1 percent each year since 2021, according to the Fostering Network, even as the number of children entering care has risen.

For the Gills, the solution is neither policy detail nor pay scale but people. “Any child can thrive when they know someone believes in them,” she said, just as the couple has been doing since 2001.

The Gills in discussion with other foster carers and Progress team members

Start your fostering journey today. Inquire about fostering at Progress. Visit progresscare.co.uk/fostering or call us on 01902 561066