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A Sparkling Start to the Year

Posted on by Paul Adepoju

With a splash of creativity, a dash of teamwork, and a sprinkle of joy, Progress kicked off the year in spectacular fashion—setting the stage for a 2025 filled with connection, growth, and unforgettable moments.

On 4th January, Progress Fostering Service held its first major event of the year, setting a vibrant and engaging tone for 2025. The day was a delightful mix of creativity, connection, and celebration, all centered around the theme of Chinese New Year. The event brought together children and their carers for an enriching experience that fostered joy, collaboration, and personal growth.

Fireworks on Paper

One of the event’s standout activities was a firework picture competition, where children used chalk on black paper to craft their own interpretations of festive fireworks. The winning artwork was particularly remarkable. A 14-year-old boy, who often rushes through tasks, poured time and thought into his piece. His depiction of the Northern Lights, combined with detailed and imaginative elements, captured everyone’s attention.

The boy’s effort was not only a testament to his creativity but also to his personal growth. Despite being a settled and well-adjusted child, this was a moment of shining potential that highlighted the importance of fostering opportunities for children to express themselves in new ways. This competition was more than just a fun exercise—it was the beginning of a year-long initiative.

Creative Mandalas and Conversations

The event wasn’t just about visual art. Sara, a therapist who works closely with Progress Fostering Service, facilitated a collaborative mandala project. This activity resonated particularly well with older children, who eagerly participated in designing and assembling the intricate artwork. The mandala represented unity and teamwork, as each child’s contribution came together to form a meaningful whole.

Sara also took time to conduct “drawing conversations,” a creative and non-intrusive method of engaging children individually. Through this process, she encouraged the children to express their thoughts and emotions in a safe and supportive environment, fostering trust and understanding.

Patience, Baking, and Building Bonds

The event also featured activities tailored for younger children, including interactive games that encouraged patience and turn-taking. A young girl who typically struggles with focus surprised everyone with her active engagement and ability to take turns. Her progress during the session was a touching reminder of how these activities can bring out the best in children when given the right support.

Meanwhile, the older children embraced the chance to bake biscuits and cakes. This hands-on activity not only delighted their taste buds but also fostered teamwork and a sense of accomplishment. Watching them collaborate and share the fruits of their labour was a heartwarming sight.

Looking Ahead

This first event of the year set a strong foundation for what’s to come. The fostering service plans to hold similar gatherings regularly, either on Saturdays or during school breaks. February’s theme will revolve around “care and respect,” providing children with creative ways to explore these values. Special care is being taken to ensure that Valentine’s Day activities avoid any focus on romantic love, instead emphasising kindness, compassion, and the bonds that form within the fostering community.

Progress Fostering Service’s January event showcased the power of creativity, community, and care. It wasn’t just a day of fun—it was a day that strengthened relationships, inspired growth, and celebrated the individuality of each child. As the year unfolds, these events will continue to provide meaningful experiences that make a lasting impact on the lives of children and their carers.

Team Leadership at Oak Cottage: A Balancing Act of Care and Coordination

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Oak Cottage is a unique and dynamic home for young people with complex needs, and one of its team leaders is Kelly. Her role embodies a delicate balance of leadership, hands-on care, and strategic oversight, ensuring both the young people and staff thrive in a supportive and nurturing environment. 

Kelly’s journey to team leadership began with her role as a residential support worker (RSW), which she held for just six months before stepping up to lead the team. With a background in health and social care and experience in mental health work, she quickly adapted to the demands of the role, thanks in part to guidance from seasoned colleagues like Tony Marsden. 

“Tony coached me into being a team leader,” she shared. “It’s a big shift—from focusing solely on the young people to overseeing the entire house, managing the staff, and ensuring the young people’s needs are met. It’s about balancing it all.” 

Kelly’s days are anything but predictable. Mornings begin with the hustle of preparing young people for school, from managing personal care to ensuring all their essentials are ready. Once the young people are off, Kelly and her colleagues dive into administrative and management tasks, often juggling schedules, staffing issues, and compliance responsibilities. 

Afternoons and evenings bring the young people back, filling the house with energy and laughter. “It’s like organised chaos,” Kelly explained. “Each young person has their own personality and needs, and they all interact in such unique ways. Watching the eldest and youngest bond or manage their quirks is both challenging and heartwarming.” 

Leading with Empathy 

A hallmark of Kelly’s leadership style is her ability to connect deeply with both the young people and her staff. She emphasises the importance of creating a familial atmosphere at Oak Cottage. “We’re basically the kids’ family,” she said. “We might not be their biological parents, but they see us as family, and it’s our job to provide the love and attention they need.” 

Her approach extends to her team as well. Kelly ensures staff feel supported, particularly during difficult times. When she returned after a period of illness, she noticed a disconnect within the team and took steps to rebuild camaraderie and focus. “You have to remind everyone that we’re all here for the same reason: to care for these kids and give them the best experiences possible.” 

As a team leader, Kelly faces the dual challenge of managing a high-energy home and ensuring all compliance and administrative duties are met. “It’s about finding the balance,” she said. “You can’t let the paperwork overshadow the care we’re here to provide. At the same time, everything needs to be documented to keep things running smoothly.” 

She also deals with the emotional weight of the role, particularly when young people move on from Oak Cottage. “It’s hard when a child you’ve bonded with leaves,” she admitted. “But it’s rewarding to know you’ve played a part in their journey.” 

Building a Solid Team 

Kelly believes a strong, cohesive team is vital to the success of Oak Cottage. She mentors new staff members, sharing her knowledge and encouraging them to embrace the home’s fast-paced and often unpredictable environment. “You won’t bond with every young person the same way, but it’s about making the most of the bonds you do form,” she said. 

For Kelly, enjoying the work is essential. “You have to find joy in the good moments, even on tough days. It’s not just a job; it’s about creating a positive impact on these young lives.” 

Looking to the Future 

Kelly is committed to growing in her role while ensuring she masters each step of her career progression. “I want to be solid in every position I hold, from RSW to team leader and beyond. That way, I can lead with confidence and experience.” 

Her vision for team leadership at Oak Cottage is clear: “It’s about oversight, making sure nothing is missed, and fostering an environment where the kids can thrive and the staff feel fulfilled.” 

Oak Cottage continues to be a place of laughter, resilience, and care. The dedication of the entire team to both the young people and each other exemplifies what it means to lead with empathy, strength, and a focus on making a difference. 

For Kelly, the role of team leader is more than a job—it’s a calling. “It’s about helping these young people see that there’s good in the world and that the bad won’t happen again. That’s what makes this work so meaningful.” 

The Role of a Deputy Manager at Oak Cottage: Mandy’s Perspective

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At Oak Cottage, a home dedicated to supporting young people with complex needs, the deputy manager plays a pivotal role in ensuring the smooth operation of the home and the wellbeing of both staff and residents. Mandy is the current Deputy Manager at Oak Cottage. 

Mandy’s day as a deputy manager is a mix of structured responsibilities and the unpredictability that comes with working in residential care. From coordinating rotas and managing staff to handling urgent issues like medication consents and liaising with social workers, her role requires a combination of strong organisational skills and adaptability. 

“Every day is different,” Mandy explains. “Some days, I’m deep in paperwork, updating social workers, and organising schedules. Other days, I’m working closely with the team to resolve challenges or ensure everything runs smoothly for the young people.” 

Mondays involve setting up appointments and ensuring the rota is balanced, while Thursdays and Fridays are dedicated to preparing Ofsted reports and providing updates to social workers. Mandy also emphasises the importance of staying accessible to staff for support and guidance throughout the week. 

Transitioning from Elderly to Children’s Care 

Mandy’s journey to Oak Cottage began after 26 years in elderly care, including a decade as a manager. Transitioning into children’s care was a significant adjustment for her. “It’s completely different,” she says. “Everything from the paperwork to the emotional dynamics is unique. I had to learn a lot—fast.” 

Initially, the role felt overwhelming. “I thought, ‘I’ll never be able to do this,’” Mandy recalls. However, with support from the team and a willingness to adapt, she has grown into her role. Now, she reflects on how much she has learned and how rewarding the experience has become. 

Support and Teamwork at Oak Cottage 

One of the aspects Mandy values most about her role is the strong support system at Oak Cottage. Whether she’s working with the registered manager or seeking guidance from the head office team, she never feels alone in facing challenges. 

“You’re not on your own here,” Mandy says. “There’s always someone to turn to—whether it’s a colleague, the management team, or the resources available online. It makes all the difference when things get tough.” 

Finding Fulfilment in Supporting Young People 

For Mandy, the most rewarding part of her role is the sense of accomplishment she feels after making a positive impact on the lives of the young people at Oak Cottage. “Coming from elderly care, I wasn’t feeling fulfilled anymore,” she explains. “But here, working with complex children, I feel like I’m making a real difference. It’s a deeply fulfilling experience.” 

She shares how learning about the backgrounds of the young people can be both heart-wrenching and motivating. “Sometimes, I look at these children and think, if I had a spare bedroom, I’d take them home with me,” she says. “But knowing they’re so well cared for here makes it easier to leave at the end of the day.” 

Qualities for Success as a Deputy Manager 

When asked about the qualities needed to succeed as a deputy manager, Mandy highlights patience, adaptability, and a willingness to learn. “You don’t need to have all the knowledge upfront,” she says. “Oak Cottage is a place where you’ll be trained to a high standard. They’ll support you, guide you, and help you grow into the role.” 

She also notes the importance of resilience and a strong work ethic. “It’s not always easy, but the rewards far outweigh the challenges.” 

A Growing Sense of Belonging 

After six months in the role, Mandy reflects on how far she has come. “It took me a while to settle in,” she admits. “But now, I feel like I’ve been here for years. I’ve started to really enjoy my job, and it’s all thanks to the supportive team and the incredible young people we care for.” 

For Mandy, being a deputy manager at Oak Cottage is more than just a job—it’s an opportunity to contribute to something meaningful. Whether she’s mentoring staff, solving problems, or ensuring the young people have the care they need, she knows her work has a lasting impact. 

“Every day, I walk away feeling like I’ve done something important,” she says. “That’s what makes this role so special.” 

Mandy’s story reflects the heart and dedication required to be a deputy manager at Oak Cottage—a role that combines leadership, compassion, and a commitment to making a difference. 

Progress Fostering Service Celebrates Successful Annual Fostering Panel Day

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Progress Fostering Service today held its much-anticipated Annual Fostering Panel Day, a significant occasion for reflection, collaboration, and forward planning. The event brought together panel members, supervising social workers, and other stakeholders, including Tina Bhardwaj, Head of Children’s Services, and Michelle Earp, the recently appointed Fostering Manager.

The day was designed to strengthen the fostering process, ensuring compliance with legislation while enhancing the experience for all involved. Tina Bhardwaj highlighted the importance of this annual event as an opportunity to reset and align goals for the year ahead. “We met with all the panel members for an annual training event to review panel processes and identify improvements. It was a chance to, among others, reflect on what we’ve done well, and remind ourselves of the fostering panel’s purpose,” she said. Tina also emphasised the value of the professional expertise and diverse backgrounds of panel members, which bring significant depth to the fostering process​.

Michelle Earp shared her insights into the outcomes of the day, describing the feedback from attendees as both “amazing and constructive.” She appreciated the opportunity for panel members to meet new supervising social workers, fostering collaboration and mutual understanding. “It’s been refreshing to catch up with panel members and hear their feedback. It’s clear what they want, and this gives us actionable steps to make the process smoother,” she remarked.

The event also featured professional development sessions, including reviews of key legislation and discussions about the roles and responsibilities of panel members. These sessions reinforced the importance of adhering to governance standards while inspiring new ideas for improving the fostering experience for both foster carers and children.

Attendees enjoyed a welcoming atmosphere, bolstered by opportunities to connect over thoughtfully prepared meals and informal discussions. This balance of structured training and casual engagement reflected the service’s commitment to fostering a collaborative and supportive community.

As Progress looks to the future, the feedback and insights gathered from this year’s Fostering Panel Day will shape ongoing improvements, ensuring the highest standards of care and support for children and their fostering families.

Progress Fostering Service is committed to providing safe, nurturing environments for children and young people. By prioritising quality, collaboration, and professional excellence, the service continues to make a meaningful difference to the fostering community.

Progress Celebrates Creativity with Christmas Card Challenge Winner Announcement

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Progress Fostering Service is delighted to announce the winner of this year’s Christmas Card Challenge, an annual tradition that highlights the creativity and festive spirit of the young people within our outstanding fostering service. After receiving stunning entries, the winning design was chosen for its originality, vibrant colours, and heartfelt holiday theme. 

The winner, a young person with a remarkable passion for art, impressed the judges with their imaginative design. Despite coming from a family with different cultural traditions, they embraced the festive challenge with enthusiasm, creating a piece that captures the magic of the season. 

Gemma Dugmore, Lead Support Worker, reflected on the initiative: 

“This tradition is truly special. The winning design is professionally printed and shared with families and stakeholders, but most importantly, it brings such pride to the young artist. We ensure they receive a framed copy as a keepsake to cherish for years to come.” 

Michelle Earp, Fostering Manager, shared her thoughts: 

“The Christmas Card Challenge is more than just a competition—it’s a celebration of the creativity and spirit of our young people. Seeing their talent and enthusiasm shine reminds us of the incredible potential within our fostering service.” 

Tina Bhardwaj, Head of Children’s Services, added: 

“This challenge is a wonderful way to bring our fostering community together during the festive season. It celebrates the creativity of our young people and spreads joy through their artistry to everyone involved in our services.” 

The winning design will be professionally printed and distributed to foster families, panel members, Independent Reviewing Officers, and other stakeholders. A framed copy will also be presented to the young artist as a cherished keepsake. Claire Rogers, Managing Director of Progress, remarked:
“The Christmas Card Challenge beautifully showcases the imagination and creativity of the young people we support. It’s heartwarming to see their artwork bring joy to families, staff, and stakeholders during this special time of year.” 

Angeline Freer, Head of Corporate and Commercial, highlighted the initiative’s broader significance:
“This initiative reflects the heart of what Progress stands for—care, trust, respect and progress. The joy these cards bring to everyone involved highlights the incredible talent and spirit of our young people.” 

Bal Dhanoa MBE, Chief Executive Officer, echoed this sentiment: 

“The Christmas Card Challenge is a testament to the resilience and creativity of the young people we support. It’s inspiring to see how their artwork not only spreads festive cheer but also strengthens the sense of community within Progress.” 

The Fostering Team looks forward to continuing this cherished tradition and celebrating more creative milestones. As the festive season approaches, the team is also preparing for exciting activities, including pantomime outings for foster families in the West and East Midlands. 

 

 

Spreading Joy During the Holidays: Christmas at Oak Cottage 

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At Oak Cottage, the festive season is more than just a time of the year — it’s an opportunity to bring the magic of Christmas to life for the young people and staff alike. For Tony Marsden, a residential support worker who has spent the last decade at Oak Cottage, the holiday period is a special time filled with laughter, warmth, and cherished traditions. 

From the moment the Halloween decorations come down, Oak Cottage begins its transformation into a winter wonderland. Every corner of the home is infused with festive cheer, with colourful decorations and twinkling lights creating a magical atmosphere. “We’ve already got started on Christmas this year,” Tony shared. “The young people love seeing the house decorated—it brings so much joy.” 

Whether it’s Easter, football tournaments, or Halloween, Oak Cottage always reflects the time of year with themed decorations, but Christmas is particularly special. The big tree, festive ornaments, and creative window displays make the home feel even more welcoming. 

One of the highlights of the festive season is the annual Christmas party. Over the years, these gatherings have become a beloved tradition, with staff and young people coming together to celebrate. “We’ve had some lovely Christmas parties,” Tony recalled. “It’s about creating memories and ensuring the young people feel the excitement and joy of the season.” 

From games and music to festive food and small gifts, every effort is made to ensure the celebrations are meaningful and inclusive. For the young people, many of whom may not be with their families during the holidays, these events provide a sense of connection and belonging. 

A Home, Not Just a House 

For Tony, the most special part of Christmas at Oak Cottage is the way it feels like a family home. “It’s not just a residential house—it’s a home,” he said. “There’s laughter, warmth, and a sense of togetherness that makes this time of year so memorable.” 

The festive decorations, parties, and shared meals are all part of creating that homely environment. But it’s the dedication of the staff and the bonds they’ve built with the young people that truly make the holidays magical. 

The holiday season at Oak Cottage isn’t just about decorations and celebrations—it’s about giving. Whether it’s the thoughtful gestures of staff members like Tony or the shared joy of exchanging small gifts, the spirit of giving shines brightly. “We just want to make sure the young people know they’re cared for and valued,” Tony said. 

As the decorations go up and the excitement builds, the team at Oak Cottage is ready to make this Christmas another memorable one. For Tony and his colleagues, it’s not just about celebrating the season—it’s about creating moments of joy and comfort for the young people they support. 

Christmas at Oak Cottage is a testament to the power of care, community, and a little festive magic. It’s a reminder that with love and dedication, the spirit of the season can bring warmth and happiness to all. 

Oak Cottage: A Home Built on Care, Compassion, and Commitment

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Oak Cottage isn’t just a residential facility—it’s a home where young people with complex needs are supported by a dedicated team that fosters their growth and wellbeing. Through the perspectives of Tony, Kelly, and Mandy, we see how empathy, teamwork, and resilience create a nurturing environment that transforms lives. 

For Tony Marsden, a residential support worker who has spent over a decade at Oak Cottage, the home represents stability for the young people it serves. “I’ve been here longer than most of the young people,” Tony shares. “That consistency gives them someone familiar to rely on, especially in a world where change can feel overwhelming.” 

This stability is paired with a deep sense of empathy that guides the team’s approach to care. Kelly, a team leader, underscores this by saying, “It’s about understanding their experiences and seeing the world through their eyes. Empathy helps us connect with them and provide care that truly meets their needs.” 

Both Tony and Kelly recount moments where their empathy has made a lasting impact—whether it was supporting a young person through a difficult hospital stay or celebrating small victories during daily activities. “When you see them happy, it makes every effort worthwhile,” Kelly adds. 

A Supportive and Fulfilling Environment 

Mandy, the deputy manager at Oak Cottage, highlights the importance of the supportive culture within the home. Having transitioned from elderly care, Mandy found the experience challenging but incredibly rewarding. “Working with complex children is completely different, but it’s also deeply fulfilling,” she says. “You walk away at the end of the day knowing you’ve made a difference.” 

She attributes her growth to the strong support system in place. “You’re never on your own here,” Mandy explains. “Whether it’s the team or management, there’s always someone to guide you when challenges arise.” This support extends to every member of the team, fostering a collaborative atmosphere where everyone feels valued. 

The sense of fulfilment Mandy describes resonates with the rest of the team. Tony adds, “It’s a home, not a house. There’s laughter, warmth, and a sense of belonging that makes it so special.” 

The Day-to-Day: Challenges and Rewards 

Life at Oak Cottage is dynamic, with each day bringing new challenges and rewards. Tony describes busy mornings filled with school runs, medication routines, and personal care, while afternoons and evenings involve activities, appointments, and bedtime routines. Despite the fast pace, these routines are essential for providing structure and a sense of normalcy for the young people. 

For Mandy, a typical day involves balancing administrative tasks such as coordinating rotas, preparing reports, and managing staff. “It’s a mix of planning, problem-solving, and supporting the team,” she explains. Kelly notes that while the work can be demanding, it’s the small moments of connection that stand out. “It’s the progress, the laughter, and the bonds we build with the young people that make it all worthwhile.” 

A Place of Care and Growth 

Oak Cottage isn’t just a home for the young people—it’s also a place where staff grow and thrive. Mandy reflects on how much she has learned since joining. “They train you to be the best you can be, and the support is incredible,” she says. “It’s a place where you can truly develop your skills and make a difference.” 

For Tony, Oak Cottage has become more than a workplace—it’s a second home. He emphasises that the environment is as nurturing for the staff as it is for the residents. “It’s a home filled with care and compassion, not just for the young people, but for everyone who walks through the door.” 

A Shared Mission of Transformation 

What unites the team at Oak Cottage is a shared mission: to provide the highest quality care and create a supportive environment where young people can thrive. Whether it’s through empathy, teamwork, or the dedication of staff like Tony, Kelly, and Mandy, Oak Cottage stands as a beacon of hope and transformation. 

As Oak Cottage continues to grow and evolve, its commitment to the young residents remains unwavering. For both staff and residents, it is a place where lives are enriched, futures are shaped, and a sense of belonging is fostered. At Oak Cottage, care and compassion are more than values—they are the foundation of everything. 

Standing Up to Bullying: Voices from Progress

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Standing Up to Bullying: Voices from Progress 

For Anti-Bullying Week 2024, the young people at Progress opened their hearts and shared their thoughts on the many faces of bullying and the possibility of change. Their voices are raw, real, and deeply moving, painting a picture of both the harm caused by bullying and the hope for a kinder world. 

Bullying is not just a playground issue—it seeps into homes, schools, workplaces, and even digital spaces, leaving profound emotional scars. The young ones at Progress Fostering Service during a task, clearly articulated its many forms, helping to shed light on behaviours that often go unnoticed or unaddressed. 

“Physical bullying is when a person hits people and hides things from them,” one young person explained, while another noted, “Physical bullying means to hurt with hand, feet or things which can hurt your body.” 

Beyond the physical, verbal and psychological forms of bullying can be just as damaging, as seen in these descriptions: 

“Verbal bullying is when a person talks about people and says mean things about them,” and “Psychological bullying is calling people names.” 

The young voices also recognised the less discussed but equally harmful forms of bullying. 

“Sexual bullying is when a person inappropriately touches someone,” one wrote, while another described cyberbullying as “when a person bullies online and says mean things/messages.” 

These definitions reveal an acute understanding of the diverse ways bullying manifests, showing that these young people are not only witnesses to bullying but also powerful commentators on its impact. 

The Ripple Effect of Bullying 

Bullying is often thought of as isolated incidents, but its effects ripple far beyond the immediate interaction. Physical bullying leaves visible marks, but verbal and psychological bullying can erode confidence and self-esteem, leaving invisible scars. Cyberbullying, which has grown with the rise of social media, adds a layer of relentlessness, as the bullying follows its victims into the safety of their homes. 

Research has shown that children who experience bullying are more likely to develop mental health challenges, such as anxiety and depression. Yet, hearing these young voices clearly describe the problem brings a sense of urgency to addressing it. As one young person puts it: 

“People don’t have to bully people. They can choose to be kind.” 

Hope for Change 

Amid the hurt and struggle, these young voices also offer hope. A recurring sentiment in their messages is the belief that people can change. 

“People who bully others can change their behaviour. Yes, because some bullies can become friends,” one young person optimistically shared. Another added, “Being mean can be changed.” 

This optimism is both refreshing and challenging. It reminds us that the fight against bullying doesn’t end with punitive measures. True change comes from fostering empathy, encouraging reflection, and creating environments where kindness is celebrated, and cruelty is not tolerated. 

Why Bullying Must Be Tackled Holistically 

Creating a safe and inclusive environment requires more than just awareness—it calls for action from parents, teachers, carers, and communities. Anti-Bullying Week was a valuable opportunity to hold these conversations, but change must extend beyond a single week. Schools and organisations like Progress play a vital role in establishing systems of support, offering education, and promoting restorative justice for all parties involved. 

The young persons at Progress reflect this multi-dimensional approach. Their notes don’t just call out the problem—they offer solutions rooted in kindness, understanding, and rehabilitation. 

“I agree because people don’t have to bully people. They can choose to be kind,” one wrote, capturing the essence of the anti-bullying movement. 

A Call for Kindness 

Ultimately, the Anti-Bullying Week served as a reminder of the power of compassion. Every smile, every kind word, and every moment of standing up for someone can have a ripple effect that changes lives. One of the most poignant reflections from the young people is a testament to this belief: 

“A bully’s behaviour doesn’t define them forever; they can change.” 

Creating a Better Tomorrow 

The voices from Progress are a rallying cry to all of us. They challenge us to reflect not only on how we respond to bullying but also on how we contribute to creating a world where it has no place. From standing up to bullies to fostering empathy and inclusion, everyone has a role to play. 

Bullying is not inevitable. It is a behaviour, not a destiny, and these young people have shown us a way forward. Now, it is up to us to listen, to act, and to ensure their hope for a kinder, safer world becomes a reality. 

 

Our Journey as Foster Carers: A Letter from Julie and David

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Fostering can be very hard work…but the heart and soul you put into it can truly transform lives.

Hello! We’re Julie and David, and we want to share our journey as foster carers with you. It’s been a path filled with challenges and rewards, and we’re excited to offer a glimpse into our lives as we strive to create a loving home for the boys in our care. Fostering has always been something we wanted to do. With a big house and a love for children, it felt like the perfect fit for us. David often says, “I’ve always wanted children,” and it was through his work in support that we realised just how much we could help.

Knowing there are children out there who need a nurturing environment, we felt compelled to step in and make a difference. We won’t sugarcoat it: fostering can be incredibly hard work. From the moment we took on this responsibility, we learned that patience and understanding are crucial. “It can be very hard work,” I (Julie) tell anyone considering fostering. “You have to cater to the individual needs of each child.” It’s not always easy, but the heart and soul you put into it can truly transform lives. David shares, “This has been my hardest job yet.” But he also adds, “It’s incredibly rewarding.” We’ve learned that every day is different, filled with new challenges and joys.

Meeting Their Unique Needs

Each boy in our care is unique, and we’ve tailored our approach to meet their individual needs. Our elder boy craves affection and reassurance, while the younger one is more independent but still needs guidance. “We just reassure him that everything’s okay,” David explains. Our goal is to create a safe environment where they can thrive, and that means being there for them whenever they need us. When the boys first came to us, they had so much to adjust to, and it wasn’t easy for them or for us. They had little understanding of structure, and things we take for granted—like having their own beds—were completely new to them. It was heartbreaking but also motivating to see how much they needed a stable, loving environment. Over time, we’ve seen incredible changes.

We’re especially proud of the small moments that show how far they’ve come. One of them now takes it upon himself to help around the house, like clearing up after meals without being asked.

One of the boys has become more confident and curious, often joining in on lessons we plan for the other and picking things up quickly. The other, while facing his own challenges, has made steady progress in school and is thriving with the encouragement we give him.

We’re especially proud of the small moments that show how far they’ve come. One of them now takes it upon himself to help around the house, like clearing up after meals without being asked. The other has responded so well to praise that he’s gained a real sense of pride in his accomplishments. It hasn’t been an easy road, but seeing their growth has made all the hard work worth it. For anyone considering fostering, we can honestly say that the effort you put in will lead to moments of pride and joy you’ll never forget. When conflicts arise, we’ve established what we call “discussions.” The boys will come to us and say, “Can we have a discussion?” This simple practice helps them express their feelings and work through their disagreements in a calm and constructive way.

Celebrating the Holidays Together

The festive season is something we cherish as a family. Decorating for Halloween and Christmas has become a beloved tradition in our home. I (Julie) have always loved going all out for these occasions. I remember the first Halloween we celebrated together; the boys were overwhelmed with excitement! We made our home friendly spooky, and they couldn’t believe the amount of candy they got to collect. Christmas is another big event for us. We create a joyful atmosphere filled with decorations and family fun, ensuring that the boys feel included and loved. These traditions have not only brought us closer together but have also provided the boys with memories that they will cherish.

We’ve gone from living a quieter life to one filled with joy and activity. Fostering has made me grow as a person.

Support from Progress

We are incredibly grateful for the support we’ve received from Progress. From the moment we started our fostering journey, the resources and training available to us have been invaluable. Although we haven’t been able to attend every training session, we know there’s always someone to reach out to if we need guidance. One of the most rewarding experiences we’ve had was when the boys received awards for their achievements. It was a proud moment for us, and it reinforced the progress they’ve made since joining our family.

Fostering has also transformed us personally. We’ve gone from living a quieter life to one filled with joy and activity. David reflects, “Fostering has made me grow as a person. I’ve learned what it means to be a father figure.” The first time the younger one called him “Dad,” it brought tears to his eyes. “I never thought I would experience that,” he shares. We’ve discovered that our lives are now filled with laughter and love. Each day is an opportunity for growth, not just for the boys but for us as well.

Final Thoughts

Our journey as foster carers have been a rollercoaster of emotions, but we wouldn’t trade it for anything. We’re passionate about providing a safe and loving home for children who need it most. If you’re considering fostering or want to learn more, we encourage you to reach out. Together, we can make a positive impact in the lives of vulnerable children and create nurturing homes filled with love.

Thank you for reading about our journey. We hope our story inspires others to take that step and foster a child in need.

 

Do I need a spare room for fostering?

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The Importance of a spare room in fostering: Creating a safe haven for young people 

Fostering a child is a profound commitment that can transform lives. At Progress’ outstanding fostering service, we often encounter a range of questions from prospective foster carers. One of the most frequent queries is about the necessity of having a spare room. One of our dedicated supervising social workers offers valuable insights into why a spare room is a crucial requirement for fostering. 

Why Is a Spare Room Necessary? 

The need for a spare room in fostering cannot be overstated. Each child requires their own dedicated space within the home. This room is not merely a place to sleep; it serves as a sanctuary where the child can retreat, feel safe, and have a sense of privacy. 

Having a personal space is vital for several reasons: 

Sense of Security and Stability: Many children entering foster care have experienced significant upheaval and trauma. A dedicated room provides a stable, consistent environment where they can begin to feel secure and at home. 

Privacy and Personal Space: Every child, especially those in foster care, needs a space they can call their own. This privacy is crucial for their emotional well-being and helps them develop a sense of autonomy. 

Encouraging a Positive Transition: Moving into a new home is a significant change for any child. A personalised space can help make this transition smoother, giving the child a place to display their belongings and express their personality. 

Meeting the Requirement 

Prospective foster parents often wonder about the specifics of this requirement. The room designated for fostering should be a separate, private bedroom solely for the foster child. Even if you have other children sharing a bedroom, each foster child must have their own room. This ensures that they have a personal space that is entirely their own. 

The room should be comfortable, welcoming, and appropriately furnished. Basic necessities include a bed, storage for clothes and personal items, and a suitable environment for studying or playing, depending on the child’s age and uniqueness. Making the space warm and inviting can significantly impact how a child feels about their new home. 

Addressing Common Concerns 

Some prospective foster carers may worry that they do not have enough space in their home or that this requirement might be too challenging to meet. Here are a few considerations to address these concerns: 

  • Assess Your Living Space: Take a closer look at your home. Sometimes, a spare room might be created by repurposing an existing space, such as a home office or a guest room. 
  • Future Planning: If your current living situation doesn’t include a spare room, but you are considering moving or expanding your home, plan with fostering in mind. 
  • Community Resources: Reach out to Progress for advice and support. We can offer guidance on meeting the space requirements and may provide assistance or suggestions. 

The Bigger Picture 

Having a spare room is about more than just meeting a requirement; it’s about creating a nurturing environment that supports the foster child’s growth and development. At Progress, we believe that providing a dedicated space for each child is a fundamental step in ensuring their well-being and helping them feel valued and respected. 

While the requirement for a spare room might seem like a significant hurdle, it is an essential aspect of fostering that contributes to the child’s sense of stability and belonging. If you have a loving heart, a supportive home, and a spare room, fostering could be an immensely rewarding journey for you. Reach out to us at Progress to learn more about how you can make a difference in a child’s life by providing a safe and nurturing space to call their own. Visit progresscare.co.uk/fostering or call: 01902 561066.